Best face forward: Match your beauty for your goals!

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Happy 2018 ladies! I hope you’re ready for a year filled with doper content and more amazing life tips. I have committed myself to give more of me on my blog. That means sharing my life where I am now. Being 32 now, I can say comfortable the desire to be like anyone else is dead like a bad lace front.

Living your best life is my focal point in all things. From working with clients to launching my business to getting fit. You really have to look at yourself objectively and ask yourself does my image match my end results? If they don’t then you need to make the change. So if you say you want to climb the corporate ladder, start a business or find a man, you have to look the part.

In this post, I’m going to give you the basics of getting a perfectly crafted face that can be your foundation for many looks. I believe every woman especially those in their 30’s should have their go-to looks. From hair, makeup, fashion. Those things that make your booty look amazing, face looking like you woke up like this and hair that makes you happy. As I mentioned in my past post, when you look better you feel better. When you feel better your energy will shift to be in alignment with your goals.

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Looking at my future like…

Basic Face Must have

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Your Year or Nah? How to make 2018 your best year

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We are in this 2018 thing for real! I hope you celebrated with lots of champagne! Don’t let yourself get complacent in your goals. Be it fitness to career or finding a hot red head who is about 6’3 with broad shoulders and a big smile. Your goals are a sum of your actions. Every thought you have produces the action and those consistent actions will make your goal happen.

In my life, I have done some major things. I lost 100lbs naturally by way of working out and eating healthy. This took me about a year and granted I regained some due to a lot of life things, I still was able to do it. At first, I did it because like many Resolutioners I was going to lose weight. Instead of falling off like many, I kept going and reached my goal. Reaching such a huge goal provided me motivation to change things in other areas of my life.

I focused on changing one thing only. So I really enjoyed working out which was surprising as I wasn’t athletic at all in my life. Actually, fitness was a means I was shunned when I was younger so the negative attachment made it hard for a while. But I noticed I could really push myself and I really enjoyed trying new things. So for my first change, I increased my workouts from 3 days to 4 and it finally goes to where I went to the gym every day I worked. Once that change became automatic, I moved to the next.

Goals without measurable milestones won’t last. I made a chart with goal weights and dates I wanted to hit them. This allowed me to track my success and see where I could improve if I wasn’t hitting it on the timetable. Now with anything especially weight loss, you have to have a solid plan but don’t beat yourself if you don’t hit everything every time. Those milestones help to keep you motivated yet also the challenges help you to pivot. I also attached to each milestone a prize. From getting a heart rate monitor, new shoes or a new wig lol. Whatever I could afford I did it.

The journey to reaching your goals can be a long one. But each curve helps you to be able to dig a bit deeper and use your problem-solving skills. This year I’m re-embarking on the path of losing 100lbs. My end goal will be to be a solid 190lbs by year end. I will be making quarterly updates so make sure you are subscribed to the blog. I will share the good and the bad, the hits and misses.

As you develop your goals keep these 2 things in mind. First, make sure you follow a SMART goal process. By doing this will ensure you don’t make vague wishes. For example, saying things like I will lose weight vs saying I will lose 20lbs by 4/30/2018. The 1st one is super vague and is easy to get out of it. However, the latter gives you distinct marching orders. To go a step further you can create smaller action moves in order to reach the overall goal.

Another major area to remember is to ensure your goals are a reflection of you. We often times adopt others goals because it sounds cute. However, if your goals aren’t made for you it’s easy to quit and doesn’t flatter you. So let’s say you want to lose weight because you want to get more men. So this on the surface sounds ok, but if we dive deeper it actually isn’t. Your goals should help you evolve and be the best version of you.

Check out my video where I give you more in-depth tips on how to live your best life and hit all your goals.

Let’s make 2018  be remarkable!


Your Year or Nah? 

The Real Tea on Weight Loss Journeys: How to overcome weight gain!

As I prepare to mentally move from 2017 into 2018, I have begun a deep reflection on the year. The great and the learning opportunities. There was nothing bad as anything that didn’t go as plan allowed me a great opportunity, a detour and life lessons. I started the year in a very not so great place and I look at myself today and say wow look at what a year of actually doing the work has created. I’m not exactly where I want to be or even able to do the #goal type of post, but I believe I have come far greater than that.

If you have been following me for any length of time, you know this blog started due to my weight loss journey of losing 100lbs. I have battled weight for my entire life. I remember thinking that once I lost weight I would then get this link to actually start living. I felt that this goal weight of 150 would provide me the keys to having a wonderful life filled with men who wanted to properly pursue me, job opportunities and unlimited brunch invites from the IT girls of Dallas.

Fast forward to 2016, I went through what I like to call Hell on a Plane. I had started a new job of travel and wasn’t adjusting at all to the opportunity. I allowed my weight loss to just go out the window as well. All I could do was survive and push to get through the year. Looking at past pictures, I began to really get down on myself. However, this year I have had the opportunity to really work on myself and allow myself grace.

A few weeks ago, in the best month of the year, I was taken aback at having to be patient and wait to board the plane because a man had to be wheelchaired. I was eager to get myself settled into my 1st class seat, and Lysol that baby down. But it took 5 minutes of wheeling this gentleman and then him after several failed attempts to get up and walk to his seat. I was humbled by the experience as I am able bodied and can get up and move. Hell if I needed to run to catch my 2nd leg of my flight through Charlotte’s big ass airport I have.

This brought me to a distinct place of gratitude. I can move, I can squat, crawl, run, twerk a bit on the Stairmaster. I can do all these things without the assistance of another soul. I can take a bath at 3 am without needing to call Life-Alert.

So in true beast form, I am always looking for fitness motivation. I adore so many for taking hold of their lives and making them into something greater. It doesn’t matter where you started in life, you are 100% responsible now. I could blame a bad childhood riddled with depression, abuse, and poverty but then I would be giving someone my power and I’m not about that life.

In this video, I’m doing my version of Jeannette Jenkins workouts. I picked my top 4 moves and it gave me so much joy to do them. Again yes I have rolls, and yes I have a belly and yes I’m not anywhere near 150lbs hell, not even 200lbs. But I have the opportunity to start again, however this time I’m in a frame of mind that says hey I love me and want the best quality of life possible. That means I work out, limit the junk and ensure I get proper self-care.


Make sure you like, comment and subscribe this video. Let’s make this go viral you guys as more people need to hear and see this! Happy New Year and all the greatness to come in 2018!

FORM Beauty Review: Twist Styling Cream & Multitask Leave In Conditioner

FORM Beauty Multitask and Twist

We are on the heels of 2018! I’m excited to share with you some products I was sent from the great folks at Form Beauty. They are a new brand that specializes in curly hair products. I love brands that truly have a diversity and inclusion focus. Growing up, I never saw people that looked like me in ads. It was always white, thin and straight hair. Fast forward to 2005, which I made the decision to go natural. All I saw was 3a-3c hair types with fair skin.

Even though the natural hair community has grown by leaps and bounds as more and more women learn to cherish their hair, I still find myself not represented well. I am a plus beauty/fitness blogger and it’s rare to see chubby faces in this space. That was the fuel I need to connect and partner with Form.

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How to look like a complete snack for the holidays with Catherine’s!

Do you want to look like a complete snack for the holidays? I teamed up with Catherines and want to show you how to make you look yummy this Christmas season! Most people sleep on Catherines and I will be honest I use to as well. I would only go there if I  needed to get my nylons or girdles as I find them much better than other plus size stores. After spending some time with them I have changed my tune. I got all these items for 50 or less per item which is even more amazing. Head over to their site now to get your favorite items.

Causal Office Party/Brunch

So this cute Black Label Aster Ponte Peplum Top paired with jeans will be an easy thing to throw on for those last minute brunches or office parties. I love the faux leather detail on this shirt which adds a bit of edge. The shirt is great if you have a little tummy and want to wear a skinny jeans or pencil skirt. Top it off with a nice statement necklace and now you look like your just fabulous with trying.

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