Happy 2018 ladies! I hope you’re ready for a year filled with doper content and more amazing life tips. I have committed myself to give more of me on my blog. That means sharing my life where I am now. Being 32 now, I can say comfortable the desire to be like anyone else is dead like a bad lace front.
Living your best life is my focal point in all things. From working with clients to launching my business to getting fit. You really have to look at yourself objectively and ask yourself does my image match my end results? If they don’t then you need to make the change. So if you say you want to climb the corporate ladder, start a business or find a man, you have to look the part.
In this post, I’m going to give you the basics of getting a perfectly crafted face that can be your foundation for many looks. I believe every woman especially those in their 30’s should have their go-to looks. From hair, makeup, fashion. Those things that make your booty look amazing, face looking like you woke up like this and hair that makes you happy. As I mentioned in my past post, when you look better you feel better. When you feel better your energy will shift to be in alignment with your goals.
We are on the heels of 2018! I’m excited to share with you some products I was sent from the great folks at Form Beauty. They are a new brand that specializes in curly hair products. I love brands that truly have a diversity and inclusion focus. Growing up, I never saw people that looked like me in ads. It was always white, thin and straight hair. Fast forward to 2005, which I made the decision to go natural. All I saw was 3a-3c hair types with fair skin.
Even though the natural hair community has grown by leaps and bounds as more and more women learn to cherish their hair, I still find myself not represented well. I am a plus beauty/fitness blogger and it’s rare to see chubby faces in this space. That was the fuel I need to connect and partner with Form.
Happy December! We have made it to the last month of the year. It’s been a whirlwind but a great year. To help you get a leg up on the new year, I wanted to share that I have partnered with Form Beauty! It’s been a goal of mind to work with a natural hair care brand that includes all women. Even though my hair is much shorter now, I still take care of my golden fro.
I stumbled upon them while sipping and scrolling on the gram. Such a deadly combo. What caught my eye was the diverse mixture of models. Not everyone has 3 a hair and not everyone is fair skinned. I love seeing brands that really get this. Many times, brands are one-sided or just old in their ways. I want products that have minimal chemicals, add moisture to my delicate strands and do exactly what they were made to do. I was sent two products that I will be giving a review on later this month.
November is the most wonderful month of the year! I debuted about 96 years ago in this wonderful month. As I get older my desires for my month have evolved. I don’t do turn up anything unless you count Sephora or Ulta. But this year I wanted to look amazing and out of my comfort zone. I’m a queen of a nice neutral eye with winged liner. However, whilst scrolling on the gram I came across a look that had me totally shook. I am chocolate so I had to make the look compliment my skin. I love color and I also love glitter, like who doesn’t love glitter.
Since we are near the end of Fall and Winter is starting to tantalize us with her presence, I wanted something extremely smoky and sultry. Smokey doesn’t always have to be dark and bland. It’s my Birthday so I do what I want to. All the products will be listed below.
So with every passing year, I have gained insight and understanding about this life. It’s not always perfectly coifed like so many images out there but it’s mine. As November comes to a close, I felt it would be benefitting to share what I have learned with the world. I hope this helps, inspires, and intrigues you to reflect on your own life. Share your thoughts in the comments.
Top 5 things I learned at 32
Until you fully understand, you will continue to go through the lesson
Your body deserves the best treatment you can afford
Love is a not forever
Enjoy being alone and being with others
Depression isn’t who you are
This was probably the hardest post I have ever written as it shows the areas I work so hard at concealing. In a world that is perfect filters and highlights, the desire to be fully authentic is very pressing. To sit before yourself and learn about you is not an easy thing to do. We do many things to distract ourselves from chasing after dreams, fuck boys and scrolling on the gram. To working late hours, obsessing over your weight, hair, or marital status. None of those things really matter in the gram scheme of life.
Yes having nice cars, body and a lover is a great thing but your value and energy should be more focused on learning yourself and growing. We often become stagnant and use the following cop out to not change:It’s just who I am. A lot of that is utter BS. Now I’m black and a woman but aside from that when I want to give folks these hands to the person who cut me off or the guy who wouldn’t give me the time of day because I’m my not skinny and light-skinned, I have to stop and acknowledge my choices.
We make choices daily that could make or break our lives dramatically. If for example, I got a hold of the person who cut me off I could beat their ass and go to the jail or could find out that the person is a 90-year-old who is trying to get to their grandkids’ recital. Everything that happens in life you have a choice on how you respond. Things may happen but you get to chose do I operate out of grace or entitlement.
At my age of 32, I have encountered a lot of heartaches, disappointment, and pain. However, I have allowed myself over the past year to heal. There comes a time when you just have to become serious about your life’s work. Do you want to be known for being volatile or a healer? Do you want to be known as the coulda, shoulda or woulda chick or the chick that get’s shit down in spite of circumstances?
I leave you this as my final Bday month thought: Be the light you desire to see in the world and b comfortable very comfortable being uncomfortable. Many of your life’s desires are just an inch outside of your safe bubble that actually is counterproductive to your life.