The Ultimate Treat Yo Self Guide: Self Love is the Best

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February is sniffing at my dress and I am in a flow of life and love. I wanted to embrace this month of self-love with Black History and Valentine’s day! I look at self-love as one of the most precious and highest levels of love. We often don’t and mascaraed as though we do.

I have been aggressive on my healthy weight loss journey so far and I have made a point to enjoy my journey this time around. Instead of waiting until I get to the end to reward myself I am doing it along the way.

Fitness

I have really been trying to take advantage of moving. I am an avid watcher of the show “My 600lb Life” On TLC. It really resonates with me because at one point in my life I was tipping the scale at 350+lbs. I was so ashamed of myself and wouldn’t look at the scale.

Now after losing 100lbs before and now working on going for the goal again and more, I know the stories that most share.

. Don’t hold yourself back my loves by holding on to things that are expired! If you wouldn’t drink expired milk then don’t keep holding on to that expired narrative.

I have been on the road a lot so I have been getting creative with my workouts and make sure I plan than like any other appointment. I have been using a lot of different apps to help me keep my body as healthy as possible. My favorite fitness apps are Nike Training and Simply Yoga. These help me to not have any excuses for not getting a workout in. If it’s important to you, you will make the time.

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Black and Proud: How to rock African print in your life

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We are in the deep of Black History Month. For many years I tried to minimize my blackness in corporate America like many others. However, my heart was not happy. I wanted to fully express myself and it not be perceived as me being outrageous. As I got older and figured out that folks will be uncomfortable with my presence no matter what I do, I just said f it and morphed into my full self.

So I went digging in my closet and stumbled upon my African printed skirts. I often travel in parts of the US that aren’t welcoming to people of color. In 2018 we will not live in fear anymore so I wanted to incorporate my prints into my work day. I love things that are colorful and intricate.  Hiding behind what others may think of you is a life that isn’t being lived fully. I wear my kinky hair and melanin with pride. Fun fact, the night before shooting these looks I wanted to give myself an edge up, yea that ended with me doing a complete baldie look. I think I look damn good if I say so my self.

Button down- Rock the green

Here I paired my lovely skirt with a button down. It allows me to have a nice elegant feel that is black opulence. I got many stares and some even felt ok enough to ask about it. I look at each opportunity I move boldly as a teaching opportunity. If you’re not around other types of people you often are unaware.

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Total Adoration: Love Letter to the Black Woman

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February is the month of black history and love. Many will be swept off their feet for Valentine’s Day. As a black woman who hasn’t dated anyone in her adult life, I often feel so left out of the love. Me as a black woman I never understood this notion of my power until recent years. As I continue to evolve I am able to see the beauty in me. Self-love is a powerful force that is truly rare and the most liberating feeling in the world because if you set your tempo then you are able to flourish.

For every woman out there but especially my black women who may have battled so much in your life. We battle the appropriation of our essence by others who desire to appear cool but aren’t. We are stripped of our power often in corporate settings because we desire to scale the ladder. The stigma of being Superwoman to a world that doesn’t love us. As I reflect on my life, I know this one thing that if I focus on love it will grow. If I focus on my strength and power it will blossom.

Often left out of the mainstream mix of faux depth and positivity, I wrote this love letter to myself. Instead of wallowing in self-pity and repeating the negative recording I wanted to push out something that was different yet me. I am not one of those peppy types nor am I into the faux images of greatness. My version of beauty is like that of a dark roast coffee. It’s robust and pungent. Once it takes effect it can have you seeing the world from a higher level.Elements of Aliel arise and love cleanser Read more

Best face forward: Match your beauty for your goals!

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Happy 2018 ladies! I hope you’re ready for a year filled with doper content and more amazing life tips. I have committed myself to give more of me on my blog. That means sharing my life where I am now. Being 32 now, I can say comfortable the desire to be like anyone else is dead like a bad lace front.

Living your best life is my focal point in all things. From working with clients to launching my business to getting fit. You really have to look at yourself objectively and ask yourself does my image match my end results? If they don’t then you need to make the change. So if you say you want to climb the corporate ladder, start a business or find a man, you have to look the part.

In this post, I’m going to give you the basics of getting a perfectly crafted face that can be your foundation for many looks. I believe every woman especially those in their 30’s should have their go-to looks. From hair, makeup, fashion. Those things that make your booty look amazing, face looking like you woke up like this and hair that makes you happy. As I mentioned in my past post, when you look better you feel better. When you feel better your energy will shift to be in alignment with your goals.

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Looking at my future like…

Basic Face Must have

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How to look like a complete snack for the holidays with Catherine’s!

Do you want to look like a complete snack for the holidays? I teamed up with Catherines and want to show you how to make you look yummy this Christmas season! Most people sleep on Catherines and I will be honest I use to as well. I would only go there if I  needed to get my nylons or girdles as I find them much better than other plus size stores. After spending some time with them I have changed my tune. I got all these items for 50 or less per item which is even more amazing. Head over to their site now to get your favorite items.

Causal Office Party/Brunch

So this cute Black Label Aster Ponte Peplum Top paired with jeans will be an easy thing to throw on for those last minute brunches or office parties. I love the faux leather detail on this shirt which adds a bit of edge. The shirt is great if you have a little tummy and want to wear a skinny jeans or pencil skirt. Top it off with a nice statement necklace and now you look like your just fabulous with trying.

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