Dress your Way into a Better Life: Plus Size Fashion Staples

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2018 is texting me that she is around the corner and she is like hey girl you need to be cute too! Over the last few months, I have been on a hyperdrive of transformation. I started earlier in the year with my heart and mind by seeing a therapist who if she was a movie she would be my favorite part. The next phase of my transformation has been my wardrobe. I kept items because well I felt having a lot meant I was good. It’s quite the opposite. I know that since I want to spur my career in a new way by going after more advanced roles and also launching my speaking pursuits, I needed everything in my closet to fit my current body well and make me feel amazing. No more needing 50-11 Spanks or feeling bad because I had a donut 2 months ago.

Your wardrobe truly reflects your style and voice. Many times, however, people don’t have their own voice. So what happens is they buy a lot of crap that is trendy and it never sees the light of day. Or some people feel fashion is BS and it’s vain—I use to think that way as well when I was super warped in religion. Fashion throughout the years has evolved but there are some things that are classics.

There are a few key pieces that I believe no matter your size or budget you need to have. Spend for your coins and budget. If you have it invest as it will help you not have to re-buy so frequently and can hold up.

Black Pencil Skirt/Pants

I’m a skirt type of girl so a nice form fitting but not come get it skirt is key. I picked this up recently at Lanebryant.com on clearance for 15.00. I was very pleased with the length and how it sucks you in. A solid pair of pants and my fav cut is wide-leg. I just think they look classic and timeless.plus size pencil skirt lane bryant plus size pencil skirt lane bryant

White Button-Down

Look babes let’s chat for a brief moment especially if you have twins. If you are an  A cup I ain’t got nothing but love for you, but this isn’t your chat. If you are like me rocking some 42G’s you must ensure a button down fits you properly. I have had to go up a size and get it taken in to fit me properly. Unless your giving your lover a show, the look of popping out isn’t cute. I have had times when a shirt seemed risky and popped at the worst time, an interview. Thankfully I caught it before they did. Invest in as high quality as you can and take the few dollars to get it tailored.plus size pencil skirt lane bryant plus size pencil skirt lane bryant

Trench Coat

I picked this baby up, a London Fog up in a thrift store on random. It’s been the best 20 bucks spent. I love the classic tan color, the red lining and overall well put together look. It has kept me warm while on many of my up North work trips. Invest in coats that are sturdy and can last the hands of time. I once had a cute little coat from Dots and went to Rhode Island. The result was an inner ear infection and chest cold. Don’t be like me, get a good coat.tracee ellis ross dress tracee ellis ross dress

Statement Dress

I was minding my own biz when I saw the Tracey Ellis Ross collection at JCP had finally dropped. I was so heading towards the sequin dress but this number caught my eye. I love different prints and that it’s long sleeve. A statement dress can be anything that you want it to be. It can be a solid color but have an interesting fit or can be a wild color. Whatever you pick, make sure it fits you like a glove and makes you feel like you are Beyonce.tracee ellis ross dress tracee ellis ross dress

These items to me are key to being able to go anywhere and looking amazing. I always believe that you invest in the look you want. I’m good with creating a list and going to thrift stores to find high -quality pieces to add to your closet. No one has to spend a billion bucks to look it. I also firmly believe to be patient vs just hitting the racks at places like F21 or other fast fashion retailers. They are good for going to the club and you ever so often will find that fun piece like a sequin skirt. A wardrobe that has solid fabrics and even if needed some tailoring will help you be a step above. No more tugging at skirts or holding your purse just right in order to hide. Walk boldly and confidently into the new year and your new life!

 

The top 5 things I have learned at 32

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So with every passing year, I have gained insight and understanding about this life. It’s not always perfectly coifed like so many images out there but it’s mine. As November comes to a close, I felt it would be benefitting to share what I have learned with the world. I hope this helps, inspires, and intrigues you to reflect on your own life. Share your thoughts in the comments.

Top 5 things I learned at 32

  1. Until you fully understand, you will continue to go through the lesson
  2. Your body deserves the best treatment you can afford
  3. Love is a not forever
  4. Enjoy being alone and being with others
  5. Depression isn’t who you are

This was probably the hardest post I have ever written as it shows the areas I work so hard at concealing. In a world that is perfect filters and highlights, the desire to be fully authentic is very pressing. To sit before yourself and learn about you is not an easy thing to do. We do many things to distract ourselves from chasing after dreams, fuck boys and scrolling on the gram. To working late hours, obsessing over your weight, hair, or marital status. None of those things really matter in the gram scheme of life.

Yes having nice cars, body and a lover is a great thing but your value and energy should be more focused on learning yourself and growing. We often become stagnant and use the following cop out to not change: It’s just who I am. A lot of that is utter BS. Now I’m black and a woman but aside from that when I want to give folks these hands to the person who cut me off or the guy who wouldn’t give me the time of day because I’m my not skinny and light-skinned, I have to stop and acknowledge my choices.black woman in bubble bath

We make choices daily that could make or break our lives dramatically. If for example, I got a hold of the person who cut me off I could beat their ass and go to the jail or could find out that the person is a 90-year-old who is trying to get to their grandkids’ recital. Everything that happens in life you have a choice on how you respond. Things may happen but you get to chose do I operate out of grace or entitlement.

At my age of 32, I have encountered a lot of heartaches, disappointment, and pain. However, I have allowed myself over the past year to heal. There comes a time when you just have to become serious about your life’s work. Do you want to be known for being volatile or a healer? Do you want to be known as the coulda, shoulda or woulda chick or the chick that get’s shit down in spite of circumstances?

I leave you this as my final Bday month thought: Be the light you desire to see in the world and b comfortable very comfortable being uncomfortable. Many of your life’s desires are just an inch outside of your safe bubble that actually is counterproductive to your life.

Fitness in the Fall: Plus Size Fitness Tips

Welcome to the most wonderful time of the year: Fall! As the weather starts to change and your wardrobe, don’t neglect your fitness goals. It’s really easy to hide behind bulky sweaters and layers. Being healthy is something you should be doing year around. If you had to run for your life in the cold of winter can you do so? Keeping yourself fit and healthy will help you no matter the time. In the colder months, depression and other mental disorders are more prone because of the lack of sun. So working out will help you stay balanced and you won’t have to do a mad dash when spring comes.

If you had to run for your life in the cold of winter can you do so? Keeping yourself fit and healthy will help you no matter the time. In the colder months, depression and other mental disorders are more prone because of the lack of sun. So working out will help you stay balanced and you won’t have to do a mad dash when spring comes.

I want to give you 3 thoughts about health and fitness, especially for my plus beauties. You don’t have to constantly be on a yo-yo diet or cycle of losing weight for special events if you always make sure you stay healthy.

1.Healthy looks different on Everyone!

There isn’t a one size fits all to the way fitness looks. Many think you have to have a 6 pack and ripped arms and legs to say your fit. That is only just one of many ways it may look. Health to me means you activities for daily living aren’t impacted by your inability to do them. For example, if you can get in and out of the shower by yourself or you’re able to squat and pick it back up without assistance. In the field I work in, I have encountered many that aren’t able. If you want to go hang gliding or jump out of a helicopter if you aren’t able to do those things then that can be a goal to push your fitness forward.

 

It’s really easy to look at images on the gram and think man I want that body, but everyone is different. People of all sizes can be healthy and do a wide variety of sports and other actives. I am a lover of indoor cycle and can outpace a lot of people who are smaller. Just because someone looks a certain way doesn’t mean you can tell if they are healthy or not. Create your own vision of what healthy is for you and move. Need ideas on how to make your brand of healthy I share info in this post.

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2. Make time for what’s important

It’s easy to get caught up in this thing called life and not workout. If you have other life goals, ensure you are working out at least 3 times a week in order to reach them.  As someone who travels as much as I do, it’s really hard sometimes to go to the gym. So if I’m particularly done with seeing people for the day I often bring workout videos with me and workout right in my room. Fitness has to be seen as more than just getting cute for special occasions such as summer and weddings. If you are always ready you never have to get ready.

Find something that you really enjoy doing 3 times a week that will help you build up a sweat. I adore cycle but enjoy weightlifting even more. The feeling of lifting 420 lbs on the leg press machine makes me feel bad ass. Fitness also helps you develop a certain grit that spills out into your daily life. Got a fuck boy problem, a boss that gets on your nerves, goals of starting your own business? Fitness will help with that. When you invest in yourself it just works out that it will help you for your life.Old-navy-plus-size-active-wear

3. Your competition is the woman in the mirror

I have been on the journey of losing 150lbs for a while now. I have been close but not met it. For a few years, I allowed self-pity to keep the weight on and even going to new higher amounts. It’s not until recently did I change my view about the scale. I remember in December I was going through clothes that didn’t fit. It was super embarrassing to have to give away items because I don’t believe in hanging on to things just to say I have it. Make room for better things at your current place in life. Having loads of too tight or ill-fitted clothing can mess with your confidence. Enjoy where you are right this second and as you do you will work to make yourself better.

Drop me some comments below on your tips on staying healthy this fall.

 

What a Plus Size Chick Can Do: Quick Workout

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Hello, beauties! Fitness will always be an important factor of being a phenomenal woman. It’s not all about being snatched or skinny but working out helps you to think better, have better control over your life and ultimately lead your best life possible. Many of the images circling around fitness are very unproductive. As a black woman, I am told I must have a fat ass, flat tummy, and thick thighs but not too much in order to be accepted into the mainstream black beauty definition. Being someone who has always bounced to her own beat, this never appealed to me especially as I grow older. In my youth, I did believe that notion and did so many things to be able to get slim-thick. I look back at the younger me and want to sit her down and child you have lost your damn mind. You are wonderful and awesome right now.

Weight loss has been a rollercoaster ride for me for the last few years. However, 2017 has been one of the best years for me in the fitness area not because of major weight loss but the way I view my body. I can look at myself and say I love my body. I have never been able to do that and be truthful. Now there are some things I wish were different but if I never lost another pound, I would still rock the hell out of my body.

In this latest installment which is sponsored by Rainbeau Curves, I will show you some easy workouts that you could do at home or at a small gym to help you reach your healthy life journey goals. Rainbeau Curves is a premier plus athletic-leisure line that comes in adorable fierce prints and provides dynamic support. No one wants to worry about spilling out or mooning people while doing burpees.

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Honey don’t be basic: Living your Best Life even if your Scared!

While on a plane recently as I attempted to take my mind away from the tiny space I was cramped in, a thought popped in my “Honey don’t be basic”. This came after lamenting on not being where I desire to be in life and how it seems that everyone is blowing up. But then it it hit me, a lot of what we see is great angles and filters. Anyone can appear to have it going on but many do not. The desire to be the greatest version of yourself should be a little far fetched as it will help grow you into more.

When I’m in a place that I’m uncomfortable I often get some of my most deep thoughts. As of late, I have been ferociously reading as much as I can on positive thinking and execution of goals. From getting up at 4am, to journaling more frequently to making sure to do whatever is on my to- do list. Change is possible and it is a radical experience. If you accept annoying situations you are giving away your power of change. In this video, I’m going to share some very candid thoughts about living life well even when it scares you. Don’t live a life that is mediocre just because it’s easier or doesn’t require a lot of work.

I hope this video spurs you on to wanting more out of life or help give you boost to rock the next 4 months of 2017 out. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect for you to make moves. All the great things we have today from iPhones, a plethora of natural hair care products to apps all came from a idea that may have seemed silly or solved a problem for one person, now helps millions and is a success.

 

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