The Ultimate Treat Yo Self Guide: Self Love is the Best

February is sniffing at my dress and I am in a flow of life and love. I wanted to embrace this month of self-love with Black History and Valentine’s day! I look at self-love as one of the most precious and highest levels of love. We often don’t and mascaraed as though we do.

I have been aggressive on my healthy weight loss journey so far and I have made a point to enjoy my journey this time around. Instead of waiting until I get to the end to reward myself I am doing it along the way.


I have really been trying to take advantage of moving. I am an avid watcher of the show “My 600lb Life” On TLC. It really resonates with me because at one point in my life I was tipping the scale at 350+lbs. I was so ashamed of myself and wouldn’t look at the scale.

Now after losing 100lbs before and now working on going for the goal again and more, I know the stories that most share.

. Don’t hold yourself back my loves by holding on to things that are expired! If you wouldn’t drink expired milk then don’t keep holding on to that expired narrative.

I have been on the road a lot so I have been getting creative with my workouts and make sure I plan than like any other appointment. I have been using a lot of different apps to help me keep my body as healthy as possible. My favorite fitness apps are Nike Training and Simply Yoga. These help me to not have any excuses for not getting a workout in. If it’s important to you, you will make the time.


What you eat is just as important if not more than your workouts. I know a lot of people say they work out so they can eat whatever they want. I sadly have to let you know that unless it’s in moderation that ain’t going to work boo. You have to add quality fuel in order for you to push in your workouts and your life goals. I am a fan of adding supplements like my beloved Optimum Gold Standard Whey Protein from GNC. The more you increase your workouts your body will need more especially if you are lifting heavy which has proven to burn more fat and help you to be stronger for your daily life.

If you aren’t getting a balanced diet that is tailored to your special needs, then your body won’t live up to it’s highest level. I have been trying to incorporate a lot of green veggies and a few vegan items. I actually am enjoying the process as I find replacements for items I really love. I recently made vegan nachos using cashews as my cheese substitute.  That was life changing experience and so easy to make.

Respect your body and it will pay your dividends. Wonder why those who are wealthy will go out of their way for health. They have the true sauce which is your health is connected to your net-worth. If your health is funky so is your mind. Your mind is what is going to give you the keys to the winner circle. Make sure you are practicing self-love with your foods.


When I created my goals for the year I also created a weight loss milestone reward plan. After losing 10lbs I allowed myself a little shopping spree. True story, once an upon a time I was wearing a dress when I was losing weight. I tried as much as possible since I was broke and didn’t believe in rewarding myself, I wore some undies that were a bit too big. Well as I was strutting on the catwalk aka the workplace, I felt my undies start to make a nose dive. Luckily I was able to slowly get to an office and snatch them off.

I will not be doing that this time so I partnered with Thred Up! They are an online thrift store which is so amazing. They carry major brands with deals up to 70% off retail. So you know your girl loves a good deal while she lives her most festive life.

I picked up a few items that I feel will be able to flow into my current wardrobe and keep me motivated to hit my other goals. I picked items I felt that I could wear to the office but also flip it and wear it on this rare thing called time off.

Corporate Fierce

I have been compared to wildfire in many professional settings lol. I had a professor who would say she is no wallflower, she is like wildfire. Over the years I have become more comfortable in my skin. I use to try really hard to assimilate but failed each time. I noticed that when I honored who I was more and did what I wanted, it made me stand out in the way I wanted. When I saw this INC International Clothing dress I was like get into my basket.  I love bold colors and prints.

Red is a power color that most women are scared to wear. Whatever makes you scared unless it’s life-threatening you more than likely need to do it. Maybe it’s wearing a statement piece to work or speaking up in a meeting, you have to step out to make a change. I can rock this with a blazer for work and then take it off and be instantly ready to find my redhead at happy hour.

Now this spicy number may not be in stock anymore, which is the joy and at moments sad face when shopping. However, I would never leave you ladies out so here are some possible options.


Reclaiming my goals

I am a force to be reckoned with. I was extremely excited to get my hands on a nice blazer. Many of my professional pieces are from Jones New York. They make high-quality items that can truly go far. When your picking items for your professional wardrobe pick items that are high quality and constructed well. When Oprah calls me and says she needs me to speak at an event, I don’t have time to worry about if an item will fit well.  This look was a hit at the office as it has balance. I give you pulled together sparkle. You can pair anything with a well-made blazer and instantly go from basic to refined.

As you are pursuing your goals in 2018 especially those that involve in branching out of your comfort zone, it’s a great time to take a deep look at your image. Does your image match your goals? Do you want to start that business or go for that promotion yet your wearing poorly made clothes or just look disorganized? Many people say that being concerned with their image is frivolous or too self-indulgent. Let’s be honest ladies, if a guy walked up to you looking like he may be homeless would you still chat? Nope, you wouldn’t, that also applies to how you look for the goals you want. Your image matters because if you look great you will feel great and the energy that will come out is amazing.

Plus Size Jones New York Black Blazer Forever 21 Sequin Skirt

Warm and Professional

When I saw this dress I was intrigued. I loved the cowl neckline and the detailing. The model vibes really came out in this look as you can see lol. Those who love dresses can totally understand. I love dresses if you can’t tell but I especially love dressed that can go the distance. The dress has a lovely belt that you can tighten as your weight changes. I believe this dress will keep me nice and cozy.  At work, I tend to pick bold items so I can feel my most authentic self.

This dress is one of those you can wear to work or transition easily for a book club. I also love that the print can be paired with a variety of shoes from pumps to boots. Fashion for work and life is meant to be fun. Wearing fashion that really enhances your look is truly the best self-care you can give. It makes the self-care circle of life come full circle.

Cory Plus Size Sweater Dress


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Booty to the Sky: Lower Body Workouts at Home

Booty to the Sky: Lower Body Workouts you can do at home

So in 2018, we will not have saggy booties. That is so like last year. I know a lot of excuses about working out are “Well I don’t want anyone to see me” or ” I don’t have time “or “I don’t have money for a gym membership”. Honey, if you don’t want to be your best self just own that ish. Just say Christian look all that be great and be fabulous ain’t for me. It would be more confident than all the other excuses.

So in this video, I’m sharing some of my fav lower body moves. I use these moves pretty frequently as I  was making excuses for not working out because sometimes I’m in poor areas of the country for my job and therefore there is no gym or the hotel gym is very limited. If you want it then all the possibilities will come out. If you don’t well every option to not will appear.

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Booty to the Sky

Your Year or Nah? How to make 2018 your best year

black woman in active wear SheFit Sports Bra

We are in this 2018 thing for real! I hope you celebrated with lots of champagne! Don’t let yourself get complacent in your goals. Be it fitness to career or finding a hot red head who is about 6’3 with broad shoulders and a big smile. Your goals are a sum of your actions. Every thought you have produces the action and those consistent actions will make your goal happen.

In my life, I have done some major things. I lost 100lbs naturally by way of working out and eating healthy. This took me about a year and granted I regained some due to a lot of life things, I still was able to do it. At first, I did it because like many Resolutioners I was going to lose weight. Instead of falling off like many, I kept going and reached my goal. Reaching such a huge goal provided me motivation to change things in other areas of my life.

I focused on changing one thing only. So I really enjoyed working out which was surprising as I wasn’t athletic at all in my life. Actually, fitness was a means I was shunned when I was younger so the negative attachment made it hard for a while. But I noticed I could really push myself and I really enjoyed trying new things. So for my first change, I increased my workouts from 3 days to 4 and it finally goes to where I went to the gym every day I worked. Once that change became automatic, I moved to the next.

Goals without measurable milestones won’t last. I made a chart with goal weights and dates I wanted to hit them. This allowed me to track my success and see where I could improve if I wasn’t hitting it on the timetable. Now with anything especially weight loss, you have to have a solid plan but don’t beat yourself if you don’t hit everything every time. Those milestones help to keep you motivated yet also the challenges help you to pivot. I also attached to each milestone a prize. From getting a heart rate monitor, new shoes or a new wig lol. Whatever I could afford I did it.

The journey to reaching your goals can be a long one. But each curve helps you to be able to dig a bit deeper and use your problem-solving skills. This year I’m re-embarking on the path of losing 100lbs. My end goal will be to be a solid 190lbs by year end. I will be making quarterly updates so make sure you are subscribed to the blog. I will share the good and the bad, the hits and misses.

As you develop your goals keep these 2 things in mind. First, make sure you follow a SMART goal process. By doing this will ensure you don’t make vague wishes. For example, saying things like I will lose weight vs saying I will lose 20lbs by 4/30/2018. The 1st one is super vague and is easy to get out of it. However, the latter gives you distinct marching orders. To go a step further you can create smaller action moves in order to reach the overall goal.

Another major area to remember is to ensure your goals are a reflection of you. We often times adopt others goals because it sounds cute. However, if your goals aren’t made for you it’s easy to quit and doesn’t flatter you. So let’s say you want to lose weight because you want to get more men. So this on the surface sounds ok, but if we dive deeper it actually isn’t. Your goals should help you evolve and be the best version of you.

Check out my video where I give you more in-depth tips on how to live your best life and hit all your goals.

Let’s make 2018  be remarkable!


Your Year or Nah? 

The Real Tea on Weight Loss Journeys: How to overcome weight gain!

As I prepare to mentally move from 2017 into 2018, I have begun a deep reflection on the year. The great and the learning opportunities. There was nothing bad as anything that didn’t go as plan allowed me a great opportunity, a detour and life lessons. I started the year in a very not so great place and I look at myself today and say wow look at what a year of actually doing the work has created. I’m not exactly where I want to be or even able to do the #goal type of post, but I believe I have come far greater than that.

If you have been following me for any length of time, you know this blog started due to my weight loss journey of losing 100lbs. I have battled weight for my entire life. I remember thinking that once I lost weight I would then get this link to actually start living. I felt that this goal weight of 150 would provide me the keys to having a wonderful life filled with men who wanted to properly pursue me, job opportunities and unlimited brunch invites from the IT girls of Dallas.

Fast forward to 2016, I went through what I like to call Hell on a Plane. I had started a new job of travel and wasn’t adjusting at all to the opportunity. I allowed my weight loss to just go out the window as well. All I could do was survive and push to get through the year. Looking at past pictures, I began to really get down on myself. However, this year I have had the opportunity to really work on myself and allow myself grace.

A few weeks ago, in the best month of the year, I was taken aback at having to be patient and wait to board the plane because a man had to be wheelchaired. I was eager to get myself settled into my 1st class seat, and Lysol that baby down. But it took 5 minutes of wheeling this gentleman and then him after several failed attempts to get up and walk to his seat. I was humbled by the experience as I am able bodied and can get up and move. Hell if I needed to run to catch my 2nd leg of my flight through Charlotte’s big ass airport I have.

This brought me to a distinct place of gratitude. I can move, I can squat, crawl, run, twerk a bit on the Stairmaster. I can do all these things without the assistance of another soul. I can take a bath at 3 am without needing to call Life-Alert.

So in true beast form, I am always looking for fitness motivation. I adore so many for taking hold of their lives and making them into something greater. It doesn’t matter where you started in life, you are 100% responsible now. I could blame a bad childhood riddled with depression, abuse, and poverty but then I would be giving someone my power and I’m not about that life.

In this video, I’m doing my version of Jeannette Jenkins workouts. I picked my top 4 moves and it gave me so much joy to do them. Again yes I have rolls, and yes I have a belly and yes I’m not anywhere near 150lbs hell, not even 200lbs. But I have the opportunity to start again, however this time I’m in a frame of mind that says hey I love me and want the best quality of life possible. That means I work out, limit the junk and ensure I get proper self-care.


Make sure you like, comment and subscribe this video. Let’s make this go viral you guys as more people need to hear and see this! Happy New Year and all the greatness to come in 2018!

Dress your Way into a Better Life: Plus Size Fashion Staples

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2018 is texting me that she is around the corner and she is like hey girl you need to be cute too! Over the last few months, I have been on a hyperdrive of transformation. I started earlier in the year with my heart and mind by seeing a therapist who if she was a movie she would be my favorite part. The next phase of my transformation has been my wardrobe. I kept items because well I felt having a lot meant I was good. It’s quite the opposite. I know that since I want to spur my career in a new way by going after more advanced roles and also launching my speaking pursuits, I needed everything in my closet to fit my current body well and make me feel amazing. No more needing 50-11 Spanks or feeling bad because I had a donut 2 months ago.

Your wardrobe truly reflects your style and voice. Many times, however, people don’t have their own voice. So what happens is they buy a lot of crap that is trendy and it never sees the light of day. Or some people feel fashion is BS and it’s vain—I use to think that way as well when I was super warped in religion. Fashion throughout the years has evolved but there are some things that are classics.

There are a few key pieces that I believe no matter your size or budget you need to have. Spend for your coins and budget. If you have it invest as it will help you not have to re-buy so frequently and can hold up.

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