Total Adoration: Love Letter to the Black Woman

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February is the month of black history and love. Many will be swept off their feet for Valentine’s Day. As a black woman who hasn’t dated anyone in her adult life, I often feel so left out of the love. Me as a black woman I never understood this notion of my power until recent years. As I continue to evolve I am able to see the beauty in me. Self-love is a powerful force that is truly rare and the most liberating feeling in the world because if you set your tempo then you are able to flourish.

For every woman out there but especially my black women who may have battled so much in your life. We battle the appropriation of our essence by others who desire to appear cool but aren’t. We are stripped of our power often in corporate settings because we desire to scale the ladder. The stigma of being Superwoman to a world that doesn’t love us. As I reflect on my life, I know this one thing that if I focus on love it will grow. If I focus on my strength and power it will blossom.

Often left out of the mainstream mix of faux depth and positivity, I wrote this love letter to myself. Instead of wallowing in self-pity and repeating the negative recording I wanted to push out something that was different yet me. I am not one of those peppy types nor am I into the faux images of greatness. My version of beauty is like that of a dark roast coffee. It’s robust and pungent. Once it takes effect it can have you seeing the world from a higher level.Elements of Aliel arise and love cleanser Read more

Skincare fit for a African Queen: Black-Owned Beauty

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February is Black History Month and Valentine’s Day is on our heels.  In the energy of self-love and nothing but total adoration for black women, let’s have a deeper spa night.  As a black woman and even as a black beauty blogger, I am always excited when I see women who create lines that look like me. I know so many people went crazy over RiRi’s Fenty Beauty as it represented whole 40 shades that gave women of color the opportunity to flourish. I haven’t really had the chance to embark on that line much but it got me to thinking about other black-owned or black-focused beauty brands.

My love for all things beauty from color to fragrance and especially skincare is strong. I don’t subscribe totally to the notion that “Black don’t crack” as we still have to take adequate care of our skin. We live in a world that is constantly moving and we are often going through so many phases. By ensuring your skincare game is solid, you can definitely slow down the aging process keeping your skin impeccable.

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I was provided some products from Elements of Aliel and it was a pure joy to work with them. I love testing out new products from indie brands because their focus is filling a great need in the market. Bigger brands are great and I definitely use some, but I have always felt the smaller brands kill it as the level of quality is richer because they actually can make changes easier.

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Booty to the Sky: Lower Body Workouts at Home

Booty to the Sky: Lower Body Workouts you can do at home

So in 2018, we will not have saggy booties. That is so like last year. I know a lot of excuses about working out are “Well I don’t want anyone to see me” or ” I don’t have time “or “I don’t have money for a gym membership”. Honey, if you don’t want to be your best self just own that ish. Just say Christian look all that be great and be fabulous ain’t for me. It would be more confident than all the other excuses.

So in this video, I’m sharing some of my fav lower body moves. I use these moves pretty frequently as I  was making excuses for not working out because sometimes I’m in poor areas of the country for my job and therefore there is no gym or the hotel gym is very limited. If you want it then all the possibilities will come out. If you don’t well every option to not will appear.

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Best face forward: Match your beauty for your goals!

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Happy 2018 ladies! I hope you’re ready for a year filled with doper content and more amazing life tips. I have committed myself to give more of me on my blog. That means sharing my life where I am now. Being 32 now, I can say comfortable the desire to be like anyone else is dead like a bad lace front.

Living your best life is my focal point in all things. From working with clients to launching my business to getting fit. You really have to look at yourself objectively and ask yourself does my image match my end results? If they don’t then you need to make the change. So if you say you want to climb the corporate ladder, start a business or find a man, you have to look the part.

In this post, I’m going to give you the basics of getting a perfectly crafted face that can be your foundation for many looks. I believe every woman especially those in their 30’s should have their go-to looks. From hair, makeup, fashion. Those things that make your booty look amazing, face looking like you woke up like this and hair that makes you happy. As I mentioned in my past post, when you look better you feel better. When you feel better your energy will shift to be in alignment with your goals.

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Your Year or Nah? How to make 2018 your best year

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We are in this 2018 thing for real! I hope you celebrated with lots of champagne! Don’t let yourself get complacent in your goals. Be it fitness to career or finding a hot red head who is about 6’3 with broad shoulders and a big smile. Your goals are a sum of your actions. Every thought you have produces the action and those consistent actions will make your goal happen.

In my life, I have done some major things. I lost 100lbs naturally by way of working out and eating healthy. This took me about a year and granted I regained some due to a lot of life things, I still was able to do it. At first, I did it because like many Resolutioners I was going to lose weight. Instead of falling off like many, I kept going and reached my goal. Reaching such a huge goal provided me motivation to change things in other areas of my life.

I focused on changing one thing only. So I really enjoyed working out which was surprising as I wasn’t athletic at all in my life. Actually, fitness was a means I was shunned when I was younger so the negative attachment made it hard for a while. But I noticed I could really push myself and I really enjoyed trying new things. So for my first change, I increased my workouts from 3 days to 4 and it finally goes to where I went to the gym every day I worked. Once that change became automatic, I moved to the next.

Goals without measurable milestones won’t last. I made a chart with goal weights and dates I wanted to hit them. This allowed me to track my success and see where I could improve if I wasn’t hitting it on the timetable. Now with anything especially weight loss, you have to have a solid plan but don’t beat yourself if you don’t hit everything every time. Those milestones help to keep you motivated yet also the challenges help you to pivot. I also attached to each milestone a prize. From getting a heart rate monitor, new shoes or a new wig lol. Whatever I could afford I did it.

The journey to reaching your goals can be a long one. But each curve helps you to be able to dig a bit deeper and use your problem-solving skills. This year I’m re-embarking on the path of losing 100lbs. My end goal will be to be a solid 190lbs by year end. I will be making quarterly updates so make sure you are subscribed to the blog. I will share the good and the bad, the hits and misses.

As you develop your goals keep these 2 things in mind. First, make sure you follow a SMART goal process. By doing this will ensure you don’t make vague wishes. For example, saying things like I will lose weight vs saying I will lose 20lbs by 4/30/2018. The 1st one is super vague and is easy to get out of it. However, the latter gives you distinct marching orders. To go a step further you can create smaller action moves in order to reach the overall goal.

Another major area to remember is to ensure your goals are a reflection of you. We often times adopt others goals because it sounds cute. However, if your goals aren’t made for you it’s easy to quit and doesn’t flatter you. So let’s say you want to lose weight because you want to get more men. So this on the surface sounds ok, but if we dive deeper it actually isn’t. Your goals should help you evolve and be the best version of you.

Check out my video where I give you more in-depth tips on how to live your best life and hit all your goals.

Let’s make 2018  be remarkable!


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